Girl , You need to read this now !

I had to share because it's actually the point I have been trying to get across to some women out there (as found on Global Grind) :

Hey ya'll!

This is ya girl LeToya Luckett checkin in for the first time on my global grind page. I know it's been awhile since you heard anything from me, but the wait is over!!! Thank God! :o)

My 1st single "Not Anymore" has already been released & I just finished up the video with director Bryan Barber. I had so much fun doing this video because Bryan let me tap into my acting side.

The video was based on a tour that took place around the 60's. Back then promoters had no problem packing all there acts on one bus, & that of course left plenty of room for drama!! My characters name was Dorthy Cambelle "Dot" for short. Dot had been in this wack relationship with this guy named "Spider" played by Lance Gross (House of Payne).He was a hot mess of a boyfriend & Dot knew she deserved better , but never had the strength to leave. Well eventually Spider crossed the forbidden
line & was messing around with one of the back up singers in Dot's band. Well that did it for Dot & she knew it was time to let this lame go!

Well I definetly can relate to Dot on so many levels.
Why do we choose to stay in wack relationships when we know we deserve better? Is it the whole comfort thing or maybe low self esteem? Could it be that we would rather stay with an idiot than to face the "A" word?

Why are we so afraid of being alone??

Well I have to admit.....for someone who use to have that fear i've been single for awhile now &
I must say it ain't that bad!!! I love getting know me & discovering who the hell I am.

When your in love u tend to get so caught up in the other person that u loose yourself. When u fall hard it's a wrap. U put yourself second trying to satisfy them. Not cool!

Before getting into a new relationship we gotta know who we are, what we want, & what lines can't be cross & stick to it!!!!

God has to come 1st in every decision u make. Trust me he will save u from getting into a lot of crazy situations. Let him be in the driver seat of your life.

For all of my fellow single ladies!!!!! While God is preparing our husbands, The man that he has hand made specifically for us. Let's take this time to be "Married to Jesus". I was reading my " Woman Thou Art Lossed Bible" (written by: TD Jakes) the other day(a must read) & I came across this poem called "Married to Jesus". It changed my whole thought process. It goes on to talk about having that relationship with God 1st before getting into a relationship with a man. That is truly important.

Well I'm about to pack to start my promo tour, but I wanted to check in with ya'll first. If you ever get around to reading some of the inserts in that bible I would love to hear your thoughts.

Hope to hear from u soon!!!

Toya :o)

My Ideal Man ...

I spotted this pic on Missbehave. It's funny, just last night in a cab (all my stories about last night took place in a cab lol) I was watching the TV and Obama was on the screen . The TV was on mute and the cabbie had hit radio on blast. I didn't know what was being said about Obama but I do know that that was the moment I realized that he is the kind of man I would like to have one day for the rest of my life. Michelle is a very lucky woman. I know a lot of girls have been crushing on Obama. Do you feel like men have higher standards to comply with now that we are crushing on Obama?

She's extremely desperate ...

With only a few weeks away until Super Bowl XLIII This girl is no where near her 3 million dollar goal to air a "single and desperate to get married" commercial ad during the super bowl. I say she should just forfeit and use the money she raised to go on a memorable vacation with her single friends. OOOOPs , maybe she just doesn't have any since she's so desperate. OK, OK , I'll stop being mean. Check out the post I wrote a few months back.

Real Talk:

Somewhere between 3am and 4am last night I was forcing myself to go to sleep . I was tossing and turning wide awake like an insomniac. My TV was still on and I just happened to start watching this girly flick. I was craving a girly flick all day and the closest thing I got was The City on MTV. I mean don't get me wrong it's a cool show because I am into fashion and a girl I used to work with is on it (which by the way I'm very proud of you chicky !), but let's face it. Most 20 somethings in New York do not live that life, especially when some of us don't have real jobs anymore.
Anywho, So back to this movie. I have no idea what it is called cause it was during the time of the night when the description says "no data". The fact that she was designing shoes was what made me watch it. The girl was left a widow . She tried to keep herself busy as much as she could to not think about it. She was all about becoming successful. One day she realized she was alone. Everyone around her had someone and she was alone . Her best friend was getting married and she was alone . I felt it hard. That's exactly how I feel somedays : alone. The only thing that was missing were her single friends. Like, hello where were they?
A close friend of mine hit me up last night . She felt out of place because she was alone. Everyone around her had someone . The advice I gave her "Start hanging out with single people . You will feel much better. They will never make you feel lonely and they are more sympathetic. I read it in Cosmo. Trust me it works. " She thought it was silly of her to feel that way. I think it's pretty normal and that all single people feel that way , as much as we try not to. The most we can do is to not put ourselves in that situation.
I love my attached friends to death and all but they honestly some just make me feel like you have to be attached to someone to be happy , to get you gifts , take you out to dinner and blah blah blah . Oh and let's not forget : that ring , that ring , that ring , as if that ring is going to help feed and bring peace to the children in Gaza. Geeeez, even Married Beyonce sings about the ring. The only reason single people love that song is because of the beat and the dance. I lost count on how many times an unattached person has told me "I hate this song."
It's ok to feel lonely sometimes but not all the times. Lighten up and Grab some of your single friends . We live in one of the biggest cities in the world , not everyone is attached. Don't go out hoping you will find someone. It doesn't happen like that. It only happens when it's your time and you least expect it. Just go out, have fun and live for the moment , trust when I say you will have less lonely days to look forward to.

SUCKS !

I am here typing away. Supposed to be watching Grey's Anatomy . Missed the whole thing because I was typing away. One scene distracted me from typing. The Patient says :

I gave a kidney for him and he hasn't made a choice

I think she was talking about her man who was dating her and another woman at the same time and was supposed to decide between them. Now, I may be wrong. Please remember I have been typing away. So Christina tells her :

Well he hasn't called for you or asked for you , I think he made his decision

WOW! Talk about wake up call . If a man has not made a decision about you on his own , 99 times out of 100 means that he won't and if he does it won't be with you . My point ? Move on it's his fault , his loss . Definitely not yours. Don't go giving your kidney for him either let him give his for you first.